28 July 2008

Marriages - Divorces

Why do singles always want to get attached?

Why do couples always want to get married?

Why do marriages always end up in divorces?

Marriages these days are so fragile. You get married last year, get divorced this year, you re-marry next year. What happened to the "In sickness and in health, in good times and bad times . . . . . ." What happened to vows?

Its no wonder so many people turn to cohabiting these days, to "try out" marriage life first, so in case things doesn't work out (I don't like your living habits, you don't like my sleeping posture), there is no need to go through the hassle of filing for a divorce. The most cumbersome part is the 3 years separation which divorced couples have to fulfill!

I have a couple of friends who have ended up in divorces because they found out the "ideal man / woman" they were dating, is not so ideal after all, AFTER marriage.

It seems marriages of our parent's generation last a greater distance as compared to the marriages these days. I am starting to wonder is it because there are no more surprises these days with marriages, since everyone has slept with everyone even before THE NIGHT.

More and more young couples are filing for divorces, mostly less than 5 years in the marriage. The question now is should you quickly file for divorce when you realise "its the wrong choice", so you can find someone new? Or should you try to accommodate to one another, and probably work things out in the future? But what if after trying for years, and things worsen? Wouldn't you have wasted half a decade of your youth on someone you will not be spending the rest of your life with?

Its too hypothetical...

Whatever the case is, do not plan for a child at least for a few years after marriage, so that you are sure your partner is right for you, to avoid the worst headache of all divorces.


And remember, the child is always the victim in ALL divorces!!!

5 Macro Voice(s):

singingcoconut said...

b4 saying divorce, same goes to break up. some just lost interest or suddenly don't feel to continue the relationship.

maybe there's too many happenings in life that they get bored too soon.

mayb they 4gt the feelings on how they started in the first place. if it's so hard to get together, why it's so easy to give up?

Serene said...

u dun have tagboard anymore so i have to post here.. you and animal lovers have to read this.. touching!


Hui Hui aka Tara said...

Yes, it is!

The child is always the victim. Some couples nowadays are really selfish, they should at least think for their children sake and future.

Okay, maybe I'm a little extreme over this matter.

Mockingbird said...

Marrying anyone is always a gamble. You never know if the person will treat you right for the rest of your life.

Amen. When parents stray, the kids pay.

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